June 1, 1999 @ 10:24 AM

I want to express this especially to guys, but there will probably be an application here that women can work out for themselves.

As you’re developing a relationship with a woman, do your absolute best to keep flattery to a minimum. Flattery is like vitamin A or vitamin D, where you need it on the one hand, but can genuinely get poisoned by too much on the other hand. What you want to be is an encourager of all your girl’s got going on.

*Flattery’s like a really bad sugar rush that’ll sometimes accidentally bring her crashing down and bring her back to you for more with a bit of an emotional "carb craving."
*Encouragement builds her up and reminds her of all she’s got going on, and it ...

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